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    Psychology Of Social Selling

    Everyone is always selling. It is always pretty obvious when someone is selling a product or a service to

    you but how often do you not realize you are being sold to?

    It is happening every moment of every day.

    When you sell successfully and ethically there are 3 things you should be able to get the customer to do:

    * Like you –this is your “gut” feeling when you meet someone; 1st impression

    * Know you -getting to know someone thru conversation or back and forth exchange

    * Trust you -Once someone trust you, they are open to being “sold” to.

    QVC is a Shopping Network where I spent just over 10 years as a Planner & Buyer. They broadcast to

    approximately 350 Million households in seven countries. The reason they are successful is because they



    have always directed their On Air sales people to sell in a manner called “ The Back Yard Fence ”. This

    phrase was coined to remind the On Air sales person to sell the product as if they were speaking to their

    neighbor over the back yard fence. It is never a high pressure, scream at the top of your lungs approach

    to selling. It is a simply, friendly conversation with your neighbor who you like, know, and trust.

    When QVC was launched in 1986, this is the approach they took while other shopping networks went for the quick, loud sale and QVC quickly because the leader in this space. QVC also utilized the 3 E’s :

    * Engage- bring you into the sales process

    * Enrich- how does what they are selling affect you

    * Entertain-relax, make it not so serious. Have fun, capture people’s attention

    They engage their audience thru live TV and phone calls and now Social Media platforms. They entertain

    by selling in a way that makes the customer “tune in”, then they enrich the customer’s life by bringing

    them value. All of this was done back in the 80’s on live television.

    There are “Master Sales” people out there who can close any sale, but at the end of the day if they close

    a sale and the client /customer feels bad/pressured/uncomfortable with the sales process. What does

    that leave you with?

    A customer who is not happy with you and your sales tactics. This customer will tell people about their

    bad experience and will never recommend you/your product/service to anyone.

    I am currently a Social Media Manager and a Coach for Rachel Pedersen’s Social Media United. I have

    the opportunity to teach the students and one of my favorite subjects to teach is about a book I recently

    read a few years back called “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion ” by Dr. Robert B. Cialdini. In this

    book he identify’s and discusses 6 Universal Principles of Persuasion:

    * Reciprocity –you help me, I’ll help you

    * Scarcity - oh no its going away

    * Authority -you know what you are doing

    * Consistency -you do what you say will do

    * Liking - people like YOU!

    * Consensus - the larger group agrees on a subject

    The first Principle I always dive into with the SMU students is “Liking”. Here are just some of the

    important factors regarding this principle that Dr. Cialdini identified:

    * We like people who are similar to us

    * We like people who pay us compliments

    * We like people who cooperate with us and help us reach our goals

    Take the extra step to getting your customer to “like” you can go a very long way, especially in regards

    to Social Media Marketing and growing your audiences.



    There is an example in Dr. Cialdini’s book about a Case Study done by the Stanford business school. A

    group of business students were put into two groups. Group one was told “time equals money”, don't

    waste any time, go negotiate the deal quickly, and make the sale. Group one came back with a 55%

    success rate on closing their sales with full contract and agreement signed. Not bad right?

    Group two was told to get to know each other first, exchange information with each other, and share

    one personal thing about yourself, then try to identify a similarity that you share with each other. You

    have to do all this BEFORE you talk business with your future client. Group two came back with a 90%

    success rate and their signed agreements were typically worth 18% more than Group one.

    The lesson we learned in this Case Study was to get to know someone first, then look for areas of

    similarity and share that similarity, then genuinely compliment them before you start talking business.

    This lesson resonated with me when I first started as a Social Media Manager not only in the way I

    approach clients but in the way I approach growing clients’ audiences on every Social Platform. It goes

    back to the first thing we spoke about:

    * KNOW

    * LIKE

    * TRUST

    So whether you are creating social media content, Facebook Ad Headlines and copy or Copy for your

    funnels it’s always good to keep in mind the Principle’s of Persuasion and how you are going to

    approach your future customer or your existing customer to get them to opt in to your offer, join your

    group, or like your post.

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    Bio: Megan Flanagan Leadership

    Megan Flanagan

    As the owner of 609 Media, I connect people and ideas. During my years in retail, that connection meant traveling and living all over the world. After residing in locations such as Manhattan, London, Hawaii, and San Francisco, I eventually moved back home to New Jersey and spent a little over 10 years working at QVC. Today I work with small and mid-sized companies to grow brands and businesses by creating better connections with engaged audiences. I am part of The Clique, an elite mastermind of top marketing strategists, founded by Rachel Pedersen who is recognized by Content Marketing Institute as one of the most influential online marketers. I am also the official coach for Social Media United, the leading social media university for social media managers. Find me here: WEBSITE:

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